My son is 30, pretty handsome. (I think), graduated (by the skin of his teeth) from Western Ky. University, and stutters. He has stuttered his whole life. He was a good athlete but does not have a driving aggressive personality, so he had convinced himself that because of speech, he will never be able to have a normal white collar career job. At WKU he proved to be a very good writer but instead of pursuing any career upwardly mobil , he has moulded himself into a pretty skilled poker player and in combination with an hourly restaurant job….has managed to scrape out existence, with an apartment, etc.
He is a deep thinking, smart young man but really what he really wants is a girlfriend. Personally, I believe the right kind of woman could turn him around pretty quickly.
We as parents have put in front of him every imaginable form of speech therapy at all stages of his life. But he just won ‘t/hasn ‘t stuck with any of it.
He just says after a taste of each, ” my stuttering is different from those people.”
We would help him financially if it was in concert with a stopping of the gambling and a training program for a better job if he would somehow be passionate about the chance for the life change. But he is not , it appears, willing to change course. So we don ‘t give him money for anything, really.
We talk regularly and he comes over and visits and to his credit he IS a very good poker player and he plays on -line for money. He wins and loses, like all gamblers, but the time spent when combined with a low-end restaurant job….turns him into a hermit. A recluse. No time to look for or stumble into a “good woman. ”
Crazy as it is or wrong as the thinking might be , I just thought a nice attractive young woman who might also stutter and has some of the same problems Scott does , might actually be a match.
Wild thought, I guess. If he was a criminal or unattractive physically, or just a bad person , I would not be thinking of this idea . But he isn ‘t. He is a really good person.