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Good Communi-ca-ca-ca-tion Needed

Posted on: December 12, 2014

I tend to stutter the same way on the same words all the time. Even when I try to focus and use a technique or slow down, there are just certain words that come out the same way, every time.

Communication is one of those words. I don’t stutter on the first “c” in the word. No, I block and stutter on the second “c” sound – right in the middle of the word. It usually takes the form of three or four repetitions on the “ca” sound. Communi-ca-ca-ca-ca-tion. I am very aware of when I am in the stuttering moment with this word, as it’s a word I have to say a lot in the presentations I deliver to high school students.

I talk to them about career planning and the essential skills needed to be college and career ready, with good communication being one of those essential skills.

I am not ashamed that I stutter and I am of the belief that good communication is so much more than perfect fluency. But for some reason, when I block and stutter on key words, the same way, every time, I feel quite vulnerable and exposed. Perhaps it’s because this mostly happens when I am speaking to young people.

It’s important to me to be a good role model when I am speaking to people, especially young people. I maintain eye contact when I’m blocking and when I complete the word, I usually smile and just keep moving forward. I like to think that communicating in my own style, with confidence, is good role modeling for young people.

I want them to see that moving through vulnerability can yield good results.

A good friend of mine suggested I do a little dance when I say “communi-ca-ca-ca-ca-tion.” To the beat of the “ca-ca-ca-ca.” I think it would be a good ice breaker when I am giving a presentation on stuttering, but maybe not so much when I am talking career preparation to high school students. They might think I’m nuts and call the security officer.

What about you? Do you have words that you stutter the same way every time? How does it make you feel?

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1 Response to "Good Communi-ca-ca-ca-tion Needed"

Hey Pam, as always you are so real and open and I like that about you. As I told you in the podcast I did with you sometime ago, I stutter on A’s and my legal name is Annetta which sadly I stutter on to the point where sometimes when I am blocking persons ask me if I dont know my own name, ofcourse I am never amused to hear this. As a result then, I often used my pet name ‘Marie’ which I do not block on at all. Needless to say this has caused confusion as people think I am two different persons. I am on a crusade then to use my Legal name every time I introduce myself regardless of the fact that I stutter on it. I am using this opportunity too to become more comfortable in my own skin as a stutterer.

With this said, I so relate to your situation, and my suggestion is to just keep at trying to pronounce communication, after all, I take it your audience knows for the most part that you stutter so they should at least understand that some of this will manifest in your presentations.

You remain a role model for me, Pam.

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