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Shared Secrets

Posted on: September 29, 2012

All of us have secrets – those deep dark thoughts that we keep to ourselves because we are embarrassed or ashamed or we think we’re the only one.

With the rise of the stuttering community, many of us now know that we are not the only one. Maybe our secrets are similar to others who stutter. Maybe we share the same secrets!

For this post, I would really like if you could add your secret about stuttering to the comment section, and I will add it here to the post.

When we share our secrets, we feel less isolated and vulnerable.

I’ll start! Here are a couple of my secrets.

  • For a long time, I would never answer my phone. I would always let the voice mail click in, so I could call back and initiate the conversation on my terms, and with words I thought I wouldn’t stutter on.
  • Sometimes when I block on a word, I feel like I have disappeared for a moment and no one even notices. That feels so helpless and lonely.
  • I once told a person that I went to a different college than I really did because the name of my college just wouldn’t come out that day.

Your turn! Do you have a secret about your stuttering that you’d like to share?

Lisa shared: “I always used to introduce myself as ‘Sarah’ as it was easier to say.”

Healthandheart shared: “I selectively stutter and often feel uncomfortable stuttering in front of other black people sometimes, including my family, depending on who it is.”

Tom shared: “Whenever a friend or colleague asked me to make a phone call, I would always make some excuse, but never say the real reason (that I was afraid to because of my stuttering.”)

Julia shared: “When making a phone call, I sometimes still panic and put the phone down as soon as the person answers. I ring back straight away but old feelings surrounding the phone die hard!”

Annetta shared: “I wanted to change my name from Annetta to Marie because I stutter so much on Annetta. I also had a problem with saying hello on the phone and would have a mini panic attack whenever my phone rings.”

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7 Responses to "Shared Secrets"

I used to always introduce myself as ‘Sarah’ because it was sooooo much easier to say!

I selective stutter and often feel uncomfortable stuttering in front of other black people sometimes including my family depending on who it is.

Whenever a friend or colleague asked me to make a phone call, I would always make some excuse, but never say the real reason (that I was afraid to because of my stuttering).

When making a phone call, I sometimes still panic and put the phone down as soon as the person answers. I ring back straight away but old feelings surrounding the phone die hard!

I wanted to change my name from Annetta to Marie because I stutter so much on Annetta. I also had a problem with saying hello on the phone and would have a mini panic attack whenever my phone rings.

I shared all comments posted, I mean all. I tell people I study mechanical engineering instead of electrical. I often tell people my second name, I rehearse before making calls. I’ve not got a girl friend because my heart pounds anytime I decide to meet a girl…..

…people think of me as boring, dull whereas in the true sense I say alot to myself. I seem to be living the life of another

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