Do You Stutter More?
Posted December 24, 2013
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Do you stutter more around the holidays? The Christmas holidays can be very stressful and tiring. People who stutter may find that their stuttering increases or is more noticeable around this time of year.
The holidays are often filled with increased socializing, office parties and gatherings with family members that you might only see once a year. It can be one thing for your family to know you stutter – but it can be another thing to actually stutter openly with family you don’t see regularly.
It can be daunting to initiate small talk at holiday gatherings or figure out when to jump into a conversation. And if you’re meeting people for the first time, like at holiday networking events, introducing yourself may be stressful. As we know, our names can be the toughest thing to say for some people who stutter.
I generally find that my stuttering is more noticeable at this time of year. The days are shorter, I get less sleep and it often feels very fast paced and frenzied. I stutter more when I’m tired and I’m very aware of that.
What about you? Do the winter holidays impact your stuttering one way or another? Is there anything you do to lessen the stress of stuttering around the holidays?
December 30, 2013 at 12:37 AM
Pam, I don’t know about holidays, but I had a very interesting experience. I recently was invited to give a professional talk in Israel. I had to speak in Russian, and in three days I gave total 6 hours of talks plus almost non-stop talking to people. When I got home (to U.S. I mean) I experienced a big relapse with my stutter. I even gave a couple of toastmasters speeches with a level of stutter that left people stunned. Especially those new folks who joined recently and never heard me stutter during speeches. It lasted for about two weeks. To me it was another proof that my state of mind impacts my stutter tremendously. Also physical state such as jet lag, lack of sleep, long flight etc. To me now it feels as if my mind can run on two different tracks – my brain still remembers how to stutter but it can run fluent track as well.
Anna
December 31, 2013 at 7:12 PM
For me ‘stuttering is tremendously effected by state of mind’ is valid and true. It is though, often times for me, stuttering more severely (meaning where it is distressing for me) is predicated upon negative emotion permeating my feeling and mental states while anticipating talking and then producing speech whilst in that state. This is the predictable part for me; when I feel trouble coming on, you know the feeling.
A planned and proactive mind set, given a history of stuttering failure, is essential for me to practice. Can be easy to forget. What has always worked for me is a warrior mind set; going into battle with strength and certainty; the importance of clear concise communication. That position of strength must be created within; I must become my own champion. You’ve reminded me of these truths in my life with stuttering.
So happy to have found your blog.
Thanks,
Jim
January 10, 2014 at 8:47 AM
Jim, so happy you have found your way to this blog too. Thanks for sharing your honest and insightful thoughts.
I agree – we must have a positive mindset or stuttering gets the upper hand. I like the way you said, “warrior mind set.”
Hope you visit again.
Pam