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Feeling That Feeling

Posted on: June 11, 2010

Last night, I had a great talk with a very special person.  It wasn’t until I got off the phone with her that I realized how insightful our conversation had been. She is aware that I recently stopped attending a regular stuttering group that I had been part of for several years. (That itself is a long story!).

We both acknowledged that I now had a void in my life, but maybe it was an intentional opening to fill it with other things. We talked about how sometimes you don’t realize how something is really supportive until you “feel” how good it feels.

Just talking with other people who stutter, or someone who really gets stuttering, is support. Whether it be online, over the phone, or in person, just feeling that feeling that the other person gets you, understands and is not judgmental, is so powerful.

Support doesn’t need to come in the form of an organized meeting, at a certain time at a certain place. It doesn’t have to be therapy based, or a workshop, or with one person filling a certain role.

Nope, it can be as simple as just talking with another person who really and truly gets it. And we can create those personal networks all over for ourselves. I don’t have to wait for a certain time to attend a certain meeting. My support comes from all of the connections I have made, and each of us can do that for ourselves.

Meeting people through FRIENDS and the NSA has created many support opportunities for me. And it has extended through social media, other people’s blogs and podcasts, Skype and the phone.

Thanks so much, Lee, for reminding me of that.

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7 Responses to "Feeling That Feeling"

Your right Pam Support can just be a simple chat. There are a lot of times I will bounce something off of A friend who stutters. When I feel hurt, or just when things are not going right. That also goes for nonstuttering issues. Just talking to someone who understands means a whole lot.

Pam, I often say that once at the NSA conference the best workshops are the ones not listed in our book. Our little gartherings in the evenings sometimes are the best.

Pam,
About a year ago, I never knew what it was like to have support from other PWS. It is one of the most amazing things ever!

One of my most important forms of support comes from my SLP friend who stutters. We don’t see each other at meetings. In fact. lately, with life being so busy we chat only a few times a month, but she is my go to person. I agree support comes in many different ways.

Pam, I wasn’t aware you had stopped attending your group. You know you always have the support of us around you. This is the thing which helps me too, where I don’t have a support group here which is supportive to me in my journey. Maybe social media is the way to go for me too. I’ve said it before, but you do inspire me and I hope to get to know you better myself.

Like I said, it’s a long story. This group was a therapy support group. Not the NSA group. The therapists thought I should take a break! At first I was missing it terribly, but I have realized I have a lot of support. And I really do feel so embraced by the support of so many friends. I can feel it even from afar!

I like to read what Pam writes because it is so true for me in my own experience. There is something very funny when I talk to other people who stutter, however: when I’m around people who stutter, my old stutter comes back a bit even though I’ve had it pretty much “licked” for a long time. But getting to talk to other stutterers is worth every bit of it, of course. Do any of you other people experience that?

My stammering comes back when I am around other stammerers too that are outside of Mcguire.. and you can get support from your family and friends too if you are truly honest about your feelings about your stuttering !!
I have stopped going to Toastmasters after five years and very rarely go to a support group because I don’t get much from it any more, need something fresh to work at…..

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