Make Room For The Stuttering

My Stuttering Heart

Posted on: April 11, 2009

I don’t stutter around just anybody. No sir-ee. Anyone who knows stuttering knows that stuttering is situational and variable. My stuttering also happens to be unpredictable, even after all this time. Sometimes I just don’t feel comfortable stuttering freely. When in that situation, I know it right away. I feel it. I feel tense both emotionally and physically.

This is what happens physically. My heart pounds really fast and loud. I can hear it acutely. I do some swaying (if I’m standing) and I look fidgety.

This is what happens below the surface, or emotionally. My thoughts are racing, I am engaging in self talk, I might possibly be planning on word switching and I am definitely not actively listening to whoever else is talking. And my old friend, Avoidance, might show up.

Now you might wonder, how is this possible with this enlightened lady who tells us how comfortable she is with stuttering and how she doesn’t want to be fixed. Well, this speaks to the very complexity and variability of stuttering. I admit it. Perfect, I’m not. (Although, I certainly tried for years to be perfect).

This is my subconscious, self preservation mode kicking in. If I don’t know you well or don’t feel comfortable, this almost automatic emotional reaction kicks in. Sometimes I don’t know this has happened until it has happened. It’s sort of like a broken kickstand on a bike.

But, if I am really comfortable with you and our space, then something magical happens. It is stutter-eze. I freely stutter and let you see all of me. I let you in. I speak from the heart and with the heart.

I have had more and more of these conversations lately. Seems that when I speak stutter-eze, it is both physical and emotional. It is my stuttering heart. What a beautiful thing to realize. If you want to understand the language of love and heart, listen to stutter-eze.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Podcasts, Posts, Videos

Glad you're stopping by!

  • 486,808 visits

Monthly Archives!

Copyright Notice

© Pamela A Mertz and Make Room For The Stuttering, 2009 - 2017. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Pamela A Mertz and Make Room For The Stuttering with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. Same protection applies to the podcasts linked to this blog, "Women Who Stutter: Our Stories" and "He Stutters: She Asks Him." Please give credit to owner/author Pamela A Mertz 2017.